Difference between alone and lonely // Narcis Pep Talk

I know this is not exactly what one would call the Christmas spirit, but I think that many people feel incredibly lonely during these times. Some people are blessed with great friends, family and partners that they can embrace on Christmas morning, yet some aren't that lucky. Sounds incredibly morbid, I know, but I also think that it's very important that we learn how to live by ourselves. Sometimes I get very personal here, and sometimes some of you seem to like that, and I intend on doing it further down the line, so just stick with me with this one, as it is something that I need to get off my chest, and I hope that some people might find it helpful. 

For those who have been reading Narcis for some time now, you will know that I had to learn to deal with a lot of people leaving my life, and even though there are some old friends that stayed, I have also realised that no one has any obligation to stay with you. At any point in time, they can just stand up and leave. And if you can't get up and stand on your own two feet, without that person holding you up, then you are probably screwed, truthfully. Again, I'm going into that morbid phase, aren't I? But that is not the point that I wish to make with this blog post, in fact I want to emphasise the opposite. And that is that we can all stand alone, you don't need that special someone to hug on Christmas morning. Yes, you perhaps may want it, but you will go on even without him or her. Because you are strong, and you can find enough love for yourself to just stand up and be happy, because that is the entire point of Christmas, and for me, the entire month of December.

Me and my friend have this reoccurring joke that I'm only nice during December, and I turn back into being just a little bit mean the rest of the year. And while that used to be true, I wasn't always the nicest person ever, I am more than aware of that, I'm trying to make an effort. I was never mean just for the sake of it, there was always a reason behind it and it had nothing to do with the other person, it was always me. As stupid as it sounds. I was always afraid of people leaving, because I wasn't sure if I could do life alone.  

You don't have to, there are always new people that come into our lives, but I just want to tell you, that if you don't have anyone special around you at this time, you don't need him. Look at yourself in the mirror and smile, because you deserve to be happy, and you can bring yourself your own happiness. Do something that you love, just stand up and do it, and if that is impossible (although you are strong enough to do almost anything), then find something else that is more reachable at the time. Surround yourself with happiness, and remember that your happiness should never depend on other people. 

I will also admit that I'm writing this mostly for myself, because there comes a time when I just need a reminder, and I think I'm probably not the only one, am I? I'm sorry if this ruined your holiday spirits, but I also hope that it might help someone that is going through a lonely time right now. But remember, there is a big difference between alone and lonely.